Commonly Asked Questions
- Acknowledge their loss and say their babies name. It won't make it harder and it will help them feel seen.
- Help create a safe space for them to feel. Grief needs time and space to process.
- Check in on them regularly with simple messages. Instead of 'I am sorry for your loss', try, 'I am here', 'You are not alone', I love you'.
- Nourish them with food and support their rest and recovery. If they have other children, offer to look after them so they can go for a restorative walk or bath.
- Send them a supportive gift. Our Ritual Boxes are designed to gently support them through their grieving journey.
- Keep checking in and showing up. Going silent to protect them, will only make them feel isolated.
- Let them hold and meet your baby on their own timeline. Don’t be offended if they don’t visit your newborn or hold your baby when you think they should.
- Be aware that key dates and milestones are really difficult after loss. Birthdays, Mother's Day and Christmas Day, particularly. They will be thinking about their baby and the memories they didn’t get to make. Be gentle with them over these periods. They may need more space.
- Large crowds can be very overwhelming. Check in on them in social settings, they may need a breather.
- Put their babies birthday or key milestones in your phone and check in each year. These small gestures help them feel less alone on these difficult days.
Professional Resources
Private Support:
Pathways to Healing After Loss Directory
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